'Holders' do just that, they have the knowledge, share only snippets to others, with the objective to make others dependent on them. They build their students and clients up, but in a way that makes them feel as if they can't make a decision or do anything without consulting them. A case of 'You can only see the light when you stand beside me'.
If you have a guru in your life who doesn't encourage you to be all you can be or to feel self-empowered, then it's time you looked for a new one. The sign of a true holistic guru is one who will assist you, teach you and help you to heal yourself, rather than being in control of your healing process. They won't be keen to tie you into your next appointment or encourage you to visit them regularly. They may do follow up calls to see how you are feeling, coping or forging ahead. Some may even offer helpful advice for free. The real bringers of the light will tell you only you'll know when and if you need to return.
We don't need mentors or gurus in our lives on a permanent basis. Each time we learn something, we grow and expand in our knowledge, and more often than not, we search for the next one who will light the way.
We have a lot of inner wisdom that we can tap into. We each have come a long way in our journey up to this date, if anyone should be our guru, it should be ourselves! If you ever feel this isn't true, remember that once you couldn't walk or talk, and yet now you achieve so much more. You have weathered storms and disappointment in your life. You have shown great courage just to be you and to be standing where you are right now. It isn't necessary to spend copious amounts of money to be enlightened. Nor is it necessary to rely on someone else to validate your existence.
I get annoyed when people tell me they have been told to 'work on themselves'. Why do they have to? Is it because of Societies Laws, Other People's Belief Systems or some other fanciful reason? Acknowledging* our issues works just as well as, if not better than most healing techniques. I admit there are times when a holistic healing is vital to bringing our vibration and energy up to its optimum levels, but I find it hard to believe revisiting the same issues over and over again to 'work' on ourselves is effective.
It frightens me when people try to put me on a pedestal and make me their guru. I don't want that responsibility, I can't live their lives for them and how disempowering is it to be asking someone else to make major decisions for your life. When some people find out I'm psychic, they can become quite dependent on my answers. I have even had someone ring and ask me if they will get a parking spot if they go late night shopping!
We are all masters and mistresses of our own destiny. Seek illumination if you must, but don't give your power away!